Your last relationship was a dumpster fire.

Honestly, most of your relationships ended like that. You know that, and frankly, you’re not afraid to admit it. But in all the chaotic aftermath, you’re still trying to figure out who or what caused the dumpster fires. You’re pretty sure it’s you… or at least… that’s what your exes liked to tell you… but is it? The uncertainty is maddening.

Sometimes you wonder if you’re a literal magnet for jerks. Other times you worry that you just ruin every relationship you touch because of some personal blind spot. You go back and forth on which one it really is and secretly hope there’s some hidden third option because the idea of continuing this pattern forever puts an anxious pit in your gut, but the idea of just being single forever is seriously depressing.

You’re tired of your ex living in your head rent-free, but don’t know how to stop it.

You try to focus on mundane life tasks, but you can’t even binge-watch your favorite show anymore without mentally replaying arguments as if it’ll reveal the one thing you could’ve changed to fix everything. You obsessively reread text exchanges and social media posts, alternating between blaming your ex for their b.s. and blaming yourself for yours. The worst part, though, is that no matter how much you ponder the woulda-coulda-shouldas, you still can’t figure out how to break the pattern or even who created it in the first place.

You know your friends have a point when they say you deserve better, and you want to start believing that.

You know you have some things to work on (because who doesn’t??), but you don’t want to keep taking on ALL the blame. You’re tired of focusing on the what-ifs and missing the things that are right in front of you that bring you joy, like your friends or pets or your hobbies. You’re so ready to drink a cup of coffee in the morning without seeing your ex’s face in the damn latte art.

Online Trauma and Anxiety Counseling in Naperville to Heal from Unhealthy Relationships

My name is Jenna and I help stressed-out, anxious, self-doubting women learn to shut off the racing thoughts, stop taking ownership of other people’s bad behavior, and let go so they can put their energy where it really matters.

 Therapy can help you build confidence in knowing what stuff is yours to own and fix and what stuff you can stop blaming yourself for because it belongs to other people (including your crappy exes!). My clients have said they appreciate that I don’t just passively listen and will have an honest back-and-forth to help them dig down and find the root of the problem. Having someone to bounce things off of in a comfortable, non-judgmental space can really help you get unstuck!

Let me help you spend less mental bandwidth on crappy people so you can focus on your future.

If you’re ready to stop attracting jerks and instead start trusting your gut and creating more of what you actually want in your life and relationships, click HERE to contact me for a free 15-minute video call to see if we might be a good fit! If we chat and there are things outside of my wheelhouse or other things you’re looking for that I can’t provide, I can at least help point you in the right direction.